And then you transition from Preschool Mommy to Kindergarten Mommy.
The average person would think Preschool Mommy and Kindergarten Mommy are the same, but the rest of us know this isn’t so.
Kindergarten Mommy now has homework and class projects. It’s the transition from singing the ABCs to knowing the ABCs. It’s that foundation for reading. With reading comes knowledge. With knowledge they can take over the world!
It’s a very scary thought!
There are still tantrums, but Thing 1 is learning to tell you more about what he is feeling and what he needs and what he wants. He can’t tell the difference between needs and wants, but his vocabulary is growing so much.
Of course, remember this is all about him. No one is going to ask you what you are feeling, what you need, or what you want. Remember that ended the day you peed on the stick and the + sign came up.
You are now trying to balance the homework and after school activities. Oh yes…the activities…because kids that have a sport, music, or other passion don’t do the bad things in high school. (Personal note here: That better be the case or I have wasted a lot of precious time waiting for practices, games, and swim meets to end!!!)
So the activities…what will Thing 1 do? My Thing 1 played football at this age but then realized that was outside where it is cold or hot…heaven forbid. So we found tae kwon do. I must say depending on the sport it can help at home. Tae Kwon Do has taught us both discipline. I learned that even with a self diagnosed case of Adult ADHD (my doctor friends just leave that alone I am vicariously living my doc dreams through you) I can actual sit for an hour. Thing 1 learned that Mommy can actual sit still for an hour. Oh no, that isn’t it. He learned discipline and ways to control his own ADHD. Thing 2 learned that he would rather participate with Thing 1 than wait for him to get out of class. I am sure there is another lesson in there somewhere.
Of course after an attempt at football by Thing 1, Thing 2 could not be out done. Thing 2 took up soccer and tae kwon do. Because hey if mom can balance one activity for the first kid, what is two activities at 5 years old for the second one??!!
So, you have the homework and the afternoon activities and your work. Now that Thing 1 is in Kindergarten and learning to read and getting home later because of activities, Thing 1 starts to point out McDonald’s and Chic-Fil-A, etc on the way home. Why can’t we stop there? Comes the whine from the backseat. How do you respond with Because Mommy’s hips can’t take another night of fried fast food! We live 30 minutes out-of-town. On the quick way home we pass approximately 15 drive thrus 4 nights a week. By the time I get home I can’t remember if that is whine or WINE.
By 8 something you finally pull up the covers to do the nightly tuck in. Then the dance for 15 minutes of no more water, no more potty, no more getting out of bed. At this point you are missing the crib and those other sleepless nights.
Sometime after 10 PM with the school uniforms washed and the remnants of the day washed off of you, you fall into an unmade bed. Peace…
Then it starts over.
But the best part of the Kindergarten Mommy is when Thing 1 is learning to write and says How do I spell I love Mom? And then you remember this Stage, too, is well worth Motherhood. Because no matter how tired, how drained, how wiped out you are, seeing I LOVE YOU MOM in 5-year-old hand writing melts you.