Life with the Wild Things

Just another mom of 2 boys in a house full of energy!

iMom.com Challenge day 5 and 6 November 27, 2014


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Well, I missed posting on Day 5.  It was a long day at work followed by travel to God’s Country to see my family.  So I am going to catch up with a two in one post.

So how is it going now that we are knee deep in Holiday 1 of the Crazy Holiday Time of the Year?

Well, let’s evaluate the situation.

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The original plan was my two sisters and I would come to Mom’s with our families and have a wonderful, traditional Thanksgiving.  However, that isn’t exactly how it has ended up.  Both of my sisters work retail.  So what was going to be a sit down at noon for Thanksgiving lunch has been changed to a split meal throughout the day.  My hubby couldn’t make it this year due to changes at work.  So we are going to roll with it!

My mom has cooked for 2 days.  It smells incredible here.  One sister is already at work.  She will come over at 4 tonight.  The other sister is driving in for lunch then hitting the road in the afternoon so she can work Black Friday.  My hubby will probably have dinner with friends at home that are like family.

So… it isn’t the perfect plan we had.  But, it is still going to be wonderful because we appreciate any time we have together.

Number 3 and 4 of the challenge I had skipped earlier because my kids and husband weren’t home.

3 – Remember your kids are kids, not angels.

4 – Cut your husband some slack, he is not an angel either.

WOW!  Things I must remember.  I have a tendency to lose my patience because I want things…..112714_1541_iMomcomChal4.jpg

Well, I wish I could say that number 3 started of better.  But, I am going to keep reminding myself that they are not angels.  Number 4 is hard too.  I hate when we aren’t all together.  So it is hard not having hubby here today to celebrate all we have to be thankful for.  But, I am a work in progress.  So I’ll just keep working on this part of the challenge.  I’ll report back to you how it goes.

Number 6 is the perfect part of the challenge for today!  Be thankful for what you have instead of thinking you need more.

WOW!  What could be better for today!

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We always want more of everything.  Today, I am going to stop and think of how very lucky I am.  I am so thankful for…

  1. A family that loves me and who I love so very much
  2. Parents that have given me so much in life both mine and hubby’s
  3. A husband who really is a great person
  4. Kids who make me laugh 90% of the time
  5. Sisters, Sister in laws, Brothers, Brother in laws, Nieces, and Nephews who make life richer
  6. Friends who aren’t just friends, but they are my family

I guess I am most thankful for the people in my life rather than the things that we acquire.

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So my wish for everyone is that we can all be thankful today for our blessings big and small.  Happy Thanksgiving.

 

Challenge Day 4 November 25, 2014

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day 4It is day 4 of the challenge.  So far so good.  No meltdowns from expecting the PERFECT holiday this week.  That has to be worth something…

Which leads me to Number 7 on the list.  Eat the Christmas cookie and don’t beat yourself up for eating it.  Well, I didn’t eat the Christmas cookie, but I did eat a wonderful burger and fries.  And normally this close to the holiday, I would feel absolutely horrible about such a big meal splurge so close to the eat until you pop lunch on Thursday.  But, not this year.  I am going to savor every morsel of yummy food this year.  That’s what sweatpants are made for!

burger and friesHow have I been doing with the other numbers I have tackled so far?

Well, Number 1 – just roll with it.  So far so good.  I am not obsessing about who is getting where when and what we are all wearing or what I should have done to make it more wonderful.

Number 2 – Plan so you don’t freak out. Gifts for the sisters and nephew came in today.  Ready to be wrapped and delivered to God’s country tomorrow for them to take home to put under their trees.  Yep… planned ahead, didn’t stress when Amazon said it would be late Wednesday before it was delivered, paid off because it came in early!

Number 8 – Get some rest so you won’t be the Grinch.  The past 4 days I have been making sure I actually block out down time for myself.  WOOHOO!

It’s been a great couple of days.  Tomorrow I am on the road and then the big test is Thursday.  I think I can, I think I can!

 

The Crazy Mom Holiday Challenge Day 3 November 24, 2014

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Today is the third day of the Crazy Mom Holiday Challenge.  I have been trying to write about the challenge in order that the task are listed on the iMom.com website.  But, Number 3 and 4 are about remembering that your kids and your husband aren’t perfect angels. Well, it is a rare opportunity that I get time alone…but tonight… WOOHOO.  I have a mom break.  The wild things are in God’s Country with grandma and the hubby is on the road for work.

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WOW!  What a day.  I very rarely have these moments where I get time to myself.  And I made the best of it.

What did I do?  I skipped ahead to number 8.  Get rest so you won’t turn into the Christmas Grinch.

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I am the world’s worst person at getting rest.  Especially this time of year… I feel like I need to go go go in order to make everything perfect.  Not this year.  Not with this challenge.

This weekend while the wild things were away I took a nap Saturday and Sunday.  Oh it was wonderful.  Tonight when I came home from work and the house was empty…Oh what a peaceful night.  I watched movies, finished a book, and am about to get a great night’s sleep.

Number 8 – This may be my most favorite challenge yet!

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iMom.com Crazy Mom Holiday Challenge Day 2 November 23, 2014

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It’s day 2 of the Challenge for me.  Number 1 is going well so far.  It’s the first weekend of the holiday season.  I have done a great job in not jumping ahead to the next holiday and enjoying all this week has to offer.  I am also doing pretty good at not worrying about making the holidays PERFECT.  But instead, enjoying the moments leading up to the big meals and the get togethers.

Number 2 on the list is Plan so you won’t be running around like a crazy lady.  Today, I sent my wonderful mom the ingredients for the pie I will be making Thursday.  Plan for Thanksgiving, Check!

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I started planning for Christmas in September.  I have to for several reasons.  The main one is that we our family is spread out everywhere.  The sooner I can put the gift ideas together, the lighter the load is on me and my family when the holidays get closer.

check markHubby’s family.  CHECK!  I have already shipped all but a few gifts to his parents’ home.  We will go there just before Christmas.  This way, everything is already there under the tree, waiting for our arrival.

check markMy family.  Almost check!  I have just a few more happies to pick up to put with gifts and they will be complete.

check markBoys’ school. CHECK CHECK CHECK!  My kids attend the world’s most wonderful school.  I have everything for everyone from each teacher to the front office to everyone in between.

check markMy office. CHECK!  Gifts ready and waiting for the day we have our work party.

check markFriends. Almost check! I have several items left to pick up, but I have a list and a plan.

check markExtras. CHECK!  I have everything ready for those few extra gifts I normally forget.

A plan I am good at.  Can you tell I my over plan?  Yep.  Just a little.  So part of this year’s plan is to slow down, enjoy the moments, and not worry if there is something I forgot or didn’t do.  If it isn’t perfect, it is OK.

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The iMOM.com holiday challenge November 22, 2014

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My life is headed in a completely new direction.  Not one I planned on or was ready for, but sometimes we have to have faith that everything is happening for a reason.  It’s not bad, or horrible…even though I have a tendency to make everything out to be impossible at first.  It’s just different and change.  I don’t do change.  I don’t do different.  I am a creature of habit.  I have to have everything just so or the world isn’t turning the way I feel comfortable.  I am trying very hard to not let the changes effect the holidays.

So… I decided I would participate in the iMOM.com “Crazy Mom” Holiday Challenge.  You can follow it at

http://www.imom.com/printable/crazy-mom-holiday-challenge/

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I always want the holidays just perfect.  You know everything in its place, wonderful food, perfect weather, a dress that fits just right (even without dieting all year), no fighting, no arguing, perfect angelic kids, a husband who magically knows where all decorations must go and places them there just right.  You know… a dream world and not reality.

perfectI am going to enjoy every moment of these holiday season.  How did I start?  Well, I am not putting up my Christmas decorations until I have enjoyed a thankful Thanksgiving.  Every year I put up the Christmas decorations at the beginning of November so we can enjoy them.  But we seem to then just pass over Thanksgiving.  Not this year.  Nope, No Way!  I am enjoying all parts of Thanksgiving.

I am going to document my process on my blog.  I think I need it to be accountable for sticking with the challenge.  But also to not beat myself up when I have a “moment”.  Come on… you know about having a “moment”.  I tend to then feel guilty because I fell off the wagon with one of my “moments”.  Nope, not this year.  I am going to learn how to relax and embrace the chaos.

Number 1 on the challenge… roll with it and don’t expect a perfect holiday.  So how is this for not having a perfect holiday.  The boys and I will be at home with my mom and family in God’s Country.  Hubby will be at our home.  He won’t be able to make it over to spend the holiday with the family.  Well, just roll with it.  We can Skype or FaceTime. The Wild Things and I will have a great time.  We can check in with hubby throughout the day.  So even though it won’t be perfect, it doesn’t make the day any less special.

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I will not have a moment this week when I am driving to God’s Country by myself.  I will listen to music, sing really loud (because I’ll have 4 hours in the car by myself), and stop at Starbuck’s whenever I want.happyIt will not be perfect, but I will roll with the changes.

 

Mommies need a support group January 19, 2012

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I started this blog because I really believe that mommies need a support group.  Weekly meetings (virtual or real) where we can let it all out.  All the stuff about being a mommy.

Lately it has felt like the mommy things have been pulling me further and further from center.  Between work, the kid’s school, the kids, the kids’ activities, and the list keeps going, it has felt like I can’t quite balance life the way I did in the past.  So… I started looking for books to read to help.  Organization books, inspirational books, anything.

I am currently reading two books.  Smart Martha’s Catholic Guide and Handbook for Catholic Moms.  Yes…I guess you can tell I must be Catholic.

Both of these books have been very helpful.   I am remembering what is important and what isn’t.  I’ve noticed that 2012 is shaping up to be a much less stressful year.  Not because work and the kids changed, but because I am changing.

I am not spending 2012 yelling all the time…that was 2011.  Out with the old in with the new.

One theme I noticed in these books and other ones I have picked up recently is that having girl friends is really important.  Sometimes I think we forget that we need to spend time with our friends.  It’s very therapeutic.  So my original idea that a support group helps moms may not be that strange.

We need to take more times for lunch together.  We need to set aside time to talk to each other.  Our best allies are other moms who have gone through what we are going through or who are currently going through the same things or just other moms who understand.

 This week I had lunch with a dear friend…my son’s best friend’s mom.  She has turned into one of my very best friends.  This weekend I am going to go to a Pampered Chef party with my son’s 2 best friends’ moms.  That is 2 times in 1 week that I had some girl time!!  I am so proud of myself…this from the woman who spends all her time working or with the wild things.  I very rarely take time away from the wild things…my babysitter is laughing so hard right now I can hear her from across town.  So it isn’t from lack of an amazing babysitter and 2 wonderful back up sitters or a great husband who offers to watch the wild things that I don’t take time away from the wild things.  It is just me.  Something about me…my need to be that perfect mom.  That mom that is always there taking care of everything.

Instead of being the mom on the right.  I am going to strive to be the mom on the left!  A good mom.

 

 

 

 

St. Jude Children’s Hospital Game Day Give Back January 12, 2012

Filed under: Family,health,Motherhood,The boys — jdkihlken @ 8:31 PM
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This year I am participating in the St. Jude Game Day Give Back.

It’s a virtual Super Bowl Party.  Below is a link to a website to donate to St. Jude.

Why am I participating?  My story is a personal experience with St. Jude.

31 years ago, my cousin, Kelly Belenchia, passed away from childhood leukemia.  She was about 21 years old.  I was in the second grade.  I remember when I was told she lost her fight with cancer.  It was such a shock.  I just knew that she would be ok.

Kelly was a passionate, active, amazingly cool young lady.  She played softball and rode a motorcycle.  I remember looking at her thinking she was the most awesome person I had ever meet.  She never let her illness bring her down.  From a 7 year olds perspective she seemed invincible.

I remember they took her to Memphis, TN to St. Jude a lot.  She would come back with less hair (or no hair) and weak, but she would be better.  The doctors, nurses, and researchers worked so hard to make her better.

This would have been in the late 70s.  Imagine what they can do now with today’s technology.  My cousin was a fighter and she was surrounded by the best support team in the world.  The facility was first class even then.

I am so lucky that the wild things are healthy.  My other cousins and I are so blessed to have healthy children.  That is why we love the healthy children we have and thank God for them everyday.  We donate to help those who aren’t healthy.

So this year as you get ready for the end of football season.  Take a minute to check out the page below.  Thanks!

http://fundraising.stjude.org/site/TR/GameDayGiveBack/GameDayGiveBack?px=1989552&pg=personal&fr_id=3621

 

 
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