Life with the Wild Things

Just another mom of 2 boys in a house full of energy!

the little things December 15, 2014


I haven’t forgotten to update you about my holiday challenge.  I just have been super busy enjoying myself!

Today, my devotional in my Small Steps for Catholic Moms book was…

Help me to see You in all my little moments today, God.   Open my eyes to the peace and the beauty that are all around,but I am usually too busy to see.

WOW!  Today I am slowing down to notice all those little things.

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First we had this hard morning rain.  Right after, the sun came it out so bright and so beautiful.  I normally don’t even notice.  I have 2 huge office windows, but I get so caught up in my daily grind… I don’t see the beautiful sky after a rain.  It was so lovely.

Walking to my car at lunch there were birds chirping in the bushes out near our parking lot.  LOUDLY chirping.  It was so nice.  It was like they were saying slow down, listen to us.  So… I did.  I walked a little slower to the car.

I hope I can see all the other beautiful things I normally miss in a day.

 

ADHD and precertification for insurance November 27, 2014


Dear insurance company, government, and who ever else it may concern,

Thank you for your letter received by household Monday, Nov. 24.  Thank you for your response that did not help me at all on Tuesday, Nov. 25.  Here is my understanding of the current situation we are in…

Someone somewhere has decided that Daytrana (methylphenidate transdermal patches) will require precertification as of January 1, 2015.  In order for my son to continue using Daytrana to control his ADHD, our pediatrician must do the following.

1. Step therapy to prove that Daytrana is the best medication for my son.  If someone somewhere who made this decision agrees with our pediatrician, then we can continue to use the medication.

2. My pediatrician can write a justification and ask for an exemption to the step therapy.  Then someone somewhere will decide if my son can continue using Daytrana.  If said someone somewhere decides an exemption is not allowed then we must return to number 1 on the list.

So, please confirm that I understand this correctly.

Said someone somewhere knows my son and his needs how exactly?  See I didn’t know that said someone somewhere referred to as “invisible person” had been with me since my son was born.  I didn’t know that “invisible person” had watched my son suffer in second grade with his behavior problems.  I don’t recall “invisible person” sitting with me in the principal’s office discussing my son’s behavior.  I don’t remember seeing “invisible person” in the meeting to work on the behavior chart.  I don’t remember “invisible person” holding my hand in the pediatrician’s office while we discussed the medication options for my 7 year old.

You see I am having trouble understanding where “invisible person” was during all this.  I am fairly certain “invisible person” didn’t have any issues taking the money out of our check to pay the premium for my insurance.  But, I just don’t remember seeing “invisible person”.

Where were you when I realized that I would have to give my son a schedule 2 narcotic every day to help him succeed in school?  Where are you every month when I have to call in to the doctor’s office, travel to the doctor’s office to pick up the written Rx, go to the pharmacy and have it filled because schedule 2 narcotics require a new Rx every month?  I’m getting older so maybe memory is failing about where you have been during this process with me.

When “invisible person” decided that Daytrana requires all this extra work, did “invisible person” realize that my now 11 year old has excelled with his current medication?  My 11 year old has used Daytrana for 4 years.  He is an honor roll student, in Beta Club, on the science Olympiad team, a member of the first robotics team at his school, a first degree red belt in tae kwon do, and a member of the 6th grade boys basketball team.

My son is at a really good place in his life.  And you want me to take him off his current medication that is obviously working well and try other ADHD meds that you deem cheaper and work “just as well”.  Do you think that we didn’t try this already?  My son has a problem swallowing pills.  In addition, Daytrana patches allow my son to feel like he controls his medicine.  Which gives him a lot more confidence.

So someone somewhere, thanks for putting yourself in the middle of my son’s treatment.  I am sure you can understand my frustration.

Sincerely, Mom doing the best she can

 

iMom.com Challenge day 5 and 6


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Well, I missed posting on Day 5.  It was a long day at work followed by travel to God’s Country to see my family.  So I am going to catch up with a two in one post.

So how is it going now that we are knee deep in Holiday 1 of the Crazy Holiday Time of the Year?

Well, let’s evaluate the situation.

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The original plan was my two sisters and I would come to Mom’s with our families and have a wonderful, traditional Thanksgiving.  However, that isn’t exactly how it has ended up.  Both of my sisters work retail.  So what was going to be a sit down at noon for Thanksgiving lunch has been changed to a split meal throughout the day.  My hubby couldn’t make it this year due to changes at work.  So we are going to roll with it!

My mom has cooked for 2 days.  It smells incredible here.  One sister is already at work.  She will come over at 4 tonight.  The other sister is driving in for lunch then hitting the road in the afternoon so she can work Black Friday.  My hubby will probably have dinner with friends at home that are like family.

So… it isn’t the perfect plan we had.  But, it is still going to be wonderful because we appreciate any time we have together.

Number 3 and 4 of the challenge I had skipped earlier because my kids and husband weren’t home.

3 – Remember your kids are kids, not angels.

4 – Cut your husband some slack, he is not an angel either.

WOW!  Things I must remember.  I have a tendency to lose my patience because I want things…..112714_1541_iMomcomChal4.jpg

Well, I wish I could say that number 3 started of better.  But, I am going to keep reminding myself that they are not angels.  Number 4 is hard too.  I hate when we aren’t all together.  So it is hard not having hubby here today to celebrate all we have to be thankful for.  But, I am a work in progress.  So I’ll just keep working on this part of the challenge.  I’ll report back to you how it goes.

Number 6 is the perfect part of the challenge for today!  Be thankful for what you have instead of thinking you need more.

WOW!  What could be better for today!

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We always want more of everything.  Today, I am going to stop and think of how very lucky I am.  I am so thankful for…

  1. A family that loves me and who I love so very much
  2. Parents that have given me so much in life both mine and hubby’s
  3. A husband who really is a great person
  4. Kids who make me laugh 90% of the time
  5. Sisters, Sister in laws, Brothers, Brother in laws, Nieces, and Nephews who make life richer
  6. Friends who aren’t just friends, but they are my family

I guess I am most thankful for the people in my life rather than the things that we acquire.

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So my wish for everyone is that we can all be thankful today for our blessings big and small.  Happy Thanksgiving.

 

Challenge Day 4 November 25, 2014

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day 4It is day 4 of the challenge.  So far so good.  No meltdowns from expecting the PERFECT holiday this week.  That has to be worth something…

Which leads me to Number 7 on the list.  Eat the Christmas cookie and don’t beat yourself up for eating it.  Well, I didn’t eat the Christmas cookie, but I did eat a wonderful burger and fries.  And normally this close to the holiday, I would feel absolutely horrible about such a big meal splurge so close to the eat until you pop lunch on Thursday.  But, not this year.  I am going to savor every morsel of yummy food this year.  That’s what sweatpants are made for!

burger and friesHow have I been doing with the other numbers I have tackled so far?

Well, Number 1 – just roll with it.  So far so good.  I am not obsessing about who is getting where when and what we are all wearing or what I should have done to make it more wonderful.

Number 2 – Plan so you don’t freak out. Gifts for the sisters and nephew came in today.  Ready to be wrapped and delivered to God’s country tomorrow for them to take home to put under their trees.  Yep… planned ahead, didn’t stress when Amazon said it would be late Wednesday before it was delivered, paid off because it came in early!

Number 8 – Get some rest so you won’t be the Grinch.  The past 4 days I have been making sure I actually block out down time for myself.  WOOHOO!

It’s been a great couple of days.  Tomorrow I am on the road and then the big test is Thursday.  I think I can, I think I can!

 

The Crazy Mom Holiday Challenge Day 3 November 24, 2014

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Today is the third day of the Crazy Mom Holiday Challenge.  I have been trying to write about the challenge in order that the task are listed on the iMom.com website.  But, Number 3 and 4 are about remembering that your kids and your husband aren’t perfect angels. Well, it is a rare opportunity that I get time alone…but tonight… WOOHOO.  I have a mom break.  The wild things are in God’s Country with grandma and the hubby is on the road for work.

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WOW!  What a day.  I very rarely have these moments where I get time to myself.  And I made the best of it.

What did I do?  I skipped ahead to number 8.  Get rest so you won’t turn into the Christmas Grinch.

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I am the world’s worst person at getting rest.  Especially this time of year… I feel like I need to go go go in order to make everything perfect.  Not this year.  Not with this challenge.

This weekend while the wild things were away I took a nap Saturday and Sunday.  Oh it was wonderful.  Tonight when I came home from work and the house was empty…Oh what a peaceful night.  I watched movies, finished a book, and am about to get a great night’s sleep.

Number 8 – This may be my most favorite challenge yet!

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iMom.com Crazy Mom Holiday Challenge Day 2 November 23, 2014

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day 2

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It’s day 2 of the Challenge for me.  Number 1 is going well so far.  It’s the first weekend of the holiday season.  I have done a great job in not jumping ahead to the next holiday and enjoying all this week has to offer.  I am also doing pretty good at not worrying about making the holidays PERFECT.  But instead, enjoying the moments leading up to the big meals and the get togethers.

Number 2 on the list is Plan so you won’t be running around like a crazy lady.  Today, I sent my wonderful mom the ingredients for the pie I will be making Thursday.  Plan for Thanksgiving, Check!

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I started planning for Christmas in September.  I have to for several reasons.  The main one is that we our family is spread out everywhere.  The sooner I can put the gift ideas together, the lighter the load is on me and my family when the holidays get closer.

check markHubby’s family.  CHECK!  I have already shipped all but a few gifts to his parents’ home.  We will go there just before Christmas.  This way, everything is already there under the tree, waiting for our arrival.

check markMy family.  Almost check!  I have just a few more happies to pick up to put with gifts and they will be complete.

check markBoys’ school. CHECK CHECK CHECK!  My kids attend the world’s most wonderful school.  I have everything for everyone from each teacher to the front office to everyone in between.

check markMy office. CHECK!  Gifts ready and waiting for the day we have our work party.

check markFriends. Almost check! I have several items left to pick up, but I have a list and a plan.

check markExtras. CHECK!  I have everything ready for those few extra gifts I normally forget.

A plan I am good at.  Can you tell I my over plan?  Yep.  Just a little.  So part of this year’s plan is to slow down, enjoy the moments, and not worry if there is something I forgot or didn’t do.  If it isn’t perfect, it is OK.

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The iMOM.com holiday challenge November 22, 2014

Filed under: Family,Motherhood,The boys — jdkihlken @ 11:00 PM
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My life is headed in a completely new direction.  Not one I planned on or was ready for, but sometimes we have to have faith that everything is happening for a reason.  It’s not bad, or horrible…even though I have a tendency to make everything out to be impossible at first.  It’s just different and change.  I don’t do change.  I don’t do different.  I am a creature of habit.  I have to have everything just so or the world isn’t turning the way I feel comfortable.  I am trying very hard to not let the changes effect the holidays.

So… I decided I would participate in the iMOM.com “Crazy Mom” Holiday Challenge.  You can follow it at

http://www.imom.com/printable/crazy-mom-holiday-challenge/

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I always want the holidays just perfect.  You know everything in its place, wonderful food, perfect weather, a dress that fits just right (even without dieting all year), no fighting, no arguing, perfect angelic kids, a husband who magically knows where all decorations must go and places them there just right.  You know… a dream world and not reality.

perfectI am going to enjoy every moment of these holiday season.  How did I start?  Well, I am not putting up my Christmas decorations until I have enjoyed a thankful Thanksgiving.  Every year I put up the Christmas decorations at the beginning of November so we can enjoy them.  But we seem to then just pass over Thanksgiving.  Not this year.  Nope, No Way!  I am enjoying all parts of Thanksgiving.

I am going to document my process on my blog.  I think I need it to be accountable for sticking with the challenge.  But also to not beat myself up when I have a “moment”.  Come on… you know about having a “moment”.  I tend to then feel guilty because I fell off the wagon with one of my “moments”.  Nope, not this year.  I am going to learn how to relax and embrace the chaos.

Number 1 on the challenge… roll with it and don’t expect a perfect holiday.  So how is this for not having a perfect holiday.  The boys and I will be at home with my mom and family in God’s Country.  Hubby will be at our home.  He won’t be able to make it over to spend the holiday with the family.  Well, just roll with it.  We can Skype or FaceTime. The Wild Things and I will have a great time.  We can check in with hubby throughout the day.  So even though it won’t be perfect, it doesn’t make the day any less special.

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I will not have a moment this week when I am driving to God’s Country by myself.  I will listen to music, sing really loud (because I’ll have 4 hours in the car by myself), and stop at Starbuck’s whenever I want.happyIt will not be perfect, but I will roll with the changes.

 

 
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